Good evening- we made it to December.
Wow, what a year 😊
I have learned more about myself than I could have imagined! What about you?
I am honored and blessed to have had the opportunity to share it with you.
As we round out the year together and separate- as is the nature of telehealth I want to bring us back in rhythm and routine of the weekly message.
This week’s Monday message is a statement. Your beliefs about what you deserve are responsible for the choices that you make. I am allowing myself to acknowledge how deep this goes.
Notice what comes up for you when you contemplate this concept of deserving. Is it uncomfortable? Is it uncomfortable because you aren’t sure what you believe you deserve? Is uncomfortable because you must change habits, routines, and various personal default settings to have what believe you deserve?
Have you been limiting yourself in areas where you deserve more? When was the first time you can recall not feeling deserving? Let’s work with that.
We are one week from the Winter solstice of 2021. The earth is at a far point of the ellipse and tilted awkwardly away from the sun 😊. We will move through holidays and New Year by the month’s end. Let’s work with naming and identifying what you deserve more of in the coming year.
I find myself thinking about nail care, student loan payoff, and loved ones. I am thinking about good habits and bad habits and again about those I love, care for, and serve. I am thinking about the privilege to contemplate and write with Baby G (one of my cats) in my home office next to the museum. I am thinking about my choices and what I believe I deserve.
I have come to the following existential question:
What does the healthy ego believe it deserves? Are healthy limits necessary and if so, why are they necessary? How do limits give meaning to our lives in a similar manner that limits give meaning to data?
Thank you for supporting yourself with my work and offerings this year. You are precious and so deserving.
To life lived well!
-Stephanie Smith LMHC